I know you’ve heard me talk about Tinder, and let’s not forget my most recent experience with Mr. McNasty.
These Tinder pitfalls had me think about the type of guys I’ve come across while a single on Tinder. Of course, my list does not paint a general brush of ALL men on Tinder. That would be 1)wrong and 2) unfair to those decent men on Tinder.
Based on my experiences, here are my 7 type of guys you’ll find on Tinder:
GUY WHO ONLY HAS PICTURES OF HIM AND HIS FRIENDS
On the surface, this does NOT seem like a horrible characteristics of a Tinder profile. It is an issue, however, if ALL of the photos are with his friends. I mean, should I have to play HIDE AND SEEK when looking at a profile?
I wonder who the guy is.
No, that’s not what I want to play when I’m already on a dating app.
Makes me wonder if this a strategic move, especially if it appears most of the friends in the photo are relatively attractive.
Dating in the BOI Tip: It’s normal to have photos of your friends. Just don’t make them ALL of your photos.
2. GUY WITH TOO MANY SELFIES
Nothing is wrong with a selfie — here and there. It’s a whole other ballgame when EACH and EVERY photo is a selfie. Let’s review the type of selfies I’ve seen:
- Duck face selfie
- Just-worked-out selfie
- In-my-car-casually-driving selfie
- After-shower selfie
- I’m-trying-but-not-trying selfie
Dating in the BOI Tip: Please don’t bombard your entire Tinder profile to all selfies. It makes it seem you are obsessed wit your looks.
3. GUY WHO STARTS A CONVERSATION TO NOWHERE LAND
I mentioned this in my Guys You Find on POF blog post. It’s basically Mr. Time Suck. Here’s a typical conversation:
Mr. Nowhere Land: Hey, what’s up?
Me: Nothing much. How are you?
Mr. Nowhere Land: Nothing much.
Yeah, that’s pretty much it. Why start a conversation if CONVERSING is not your purpose.
Dating in the BOI tip: Don’t embark on the journey to nowhere land.
4. GUY WHO MATCHES BUT NO MESSAGE
Unlike Bumble (app allegedly to be female-friendly where the female has to initiate the conversation), the unspoken rule of Tinder is the man initiates the conversation after he matches. It’s intimidating to send a man a message, especially for a woman, because we don’t want to seem like 1) we are CHASING the guy and 2) we seem DESPERATE. I typically give a guy I matched with 2 weeks before I write him off. I’ve had experiences where they haven’t logged into Tinder for a few days or even weeks. I believe this because I do it!
Disclaimer: this is an unspoken rule, and it applies to my heterosexual experiences.
I have PLENTY of idle matches sitting in my Tinder app. And, most likely, they will remain idle.
5. GUY THAT NEVER ACTUALLY WANT TO MEET
There was this one match on Tinder, and he was so eager to meet. He would consistently message me, and I was interested. When it came time to finalize the details, I would get a constant “reschedule” or a “too busy.”
OK, that’s fine by me. I K.I.M (KEEP IT MOVING) when it comes to these type of guys. If you are not careful, this person will ultimately become a TIME WASTER!
6. GUY WHO ONLY HAS PICTURES WITH OTHER GIRLS
Like with the guy who has only photos with his bros/friends, there is also the guy who only has photos with girls. And these are the photos with NO explanation (for example: my sister, my cousin, etc.). I question some accounts where there is only photo of women because I wonder:
1) is this a couple looking to spice up their love life?
2) does this guy want to brag about his contact with beautiful women?
3) are these past girlfriends he is showing off?
I have no clue. But whatever the reason is, I swipe LEFT. No interest whatsoever.
Dating in the BOI tip: Diversify your photos. More importantly, if you have photos with other women, it’s best to clarify it in your bio. Don’t leave it up for interpretation, unless that’s your point.
7. GUY WHO IS ON REPEAT
Have you ever had to delete & re-download the Tinder app? Yes, I have. I deleted it a few months back, then I re-downloaded it soon thereafter. That said, there has been moments where I have matched…
and matched with the SAME GUY.
This situation has occurred multiple times here in Boise!
What’s more comical is that these guys have evolved into #4 above: GUY WHO NEVER MESSAGES.
This is my take on the 7 most common type of guys I’ve seen on Tinder. There are a few who I haven’t categorized (like Mr. McNasty), but this is a common thread I’ve seen over the course of my time on Tinder!
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