Dating in the BOI: 6 Type of Men on POF

As a single woman with limited time, I’ll admit that I’ve downloaded a few share of dating apps. I see these as tools as opposed to strictly relying on them to meet people for dates.


Whether you’re a single new to Boise (like me) or recently single Boisean, part of the dating game is the initial interactions. That said, here’s my take on the 6 type of men you’ll find on Plenty of Fish:

 

Mr. Sales-y. At first, he seems all sweet and innocent. He’ll say sweet nothings like “I read your profile and you seem so sweet and smart” or “You are absolutely beautiful and stunning.” You might be thinking “wait, aren’t these how you should address someone?” Well…maybe. Most likely these type of men copy & paste their messages and send them out in masses to all women regardless of whether or not they’ve read their profile. How do I know this? Because my profile doesn’t really say much, yet I sound sweet and smart? Hmm…


Mr. Muscles. His POF profile is inundated with muscle selfies. He takes the lyrics to the song “Let’s Take a Selfie” to heart. Shirtless selfie in the car. Shirtless selfie in the bathroom. Oh wait – shirtless selfie while eating! Can’t forget that. Be prepared for a message like “hey”. He’ll be under the notion his muscles + a generic “hey” warrant a response. Hey, maybe it will for you.

Mr. Straight-Forward. I feel like every dating app has one of these: a man who is blunt and straight to the point. Here’s some actual messages I received

  • Huhha Hubba! Nice rack 🙂
  • I love a sexual woman
  • Describe your sex drive in one word

Mr. Time Suck. It’s that guy that you initially have a good conversation with, but ultimate it turns boring. It’s the daily “hey” message. You entertain him because he seems nice and engaging. After awhile, the conversation becomes stale, all filled with “heys” and never leaves POF land. No substance, no depth, no excitement. Ultimately, you need to make the decision to cut him because the conversation is a time suck.

Mr. No-Pic. Yes ladies, you’ll see accounts where his photo is the default POF “grayed out” photo. His answer to “what I’m looking for” is “isn’t looking for anything or nothing serious.” Most likely, this man is married or in a relationship and uses this app to perpetuate his devious ways. He may even be as direct as stating that he’s in a relationship and looking for an escape. Yuck!

Mr. Jail Bird. Be prepared to see photos of inmates. How can you initially tell? In the background of their photos, you’ll see steel bunk beds, sexy calendars on the wall, or even bars. The man are dressed from head-to-toe in gray sweatshirt/sweatpants. Now, if you can’t tell they are inmates, it won’t take you long to figure it out. In the comments section, you’ll see “please send all inquires to: ______ Correctional Facility”. I’m not kidding you!


I haven’t had the best luck with POF, honestly. I truly believe it’s filled with Plenty of Fakes. But I’m still on it in hopes that I’ll meet a decent person, at least worth going out on a date. I’ll admit though — the app can be wildly addicting because you get notified when someone “likes” you or “wants to meet you” or messages you.

Stay tuned for a future blog post about the type of questions you’ll asked when on POF.


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Dancing in the BOI

Last Saturday I did my usual: Hulu binged on some BravoTV show. As the evening approached, I felt the need to get out of the apartment — the need to dance, that is.
With all this talk about snow and cold temps, you would think this would deter me of wanting to head to Boise on a Saturday night. Nope, not at all.  Get some fresh air and an excuse to put on my dancing shoes.


Here’s an overview of my night out in the BOI:
Stop 1: Fatty’s

Fatty’s is located on 8th Street, near Pie Hole, on the 2nd floor. Lately, this has been my warm-up/ starting point. When I start my night, I usually check out Fatty’s drinks specials (fireball shots, anyone?), grabs some shots, head to the dance floor, and start vibing to the music.


Cover: None

Themed Nights & Drink Specials

  • Tuesday Night Beer Pong Tournament
  • Wednesday Ladies Night with Wild 101
  • Fawesome Thursdays (EDM Night)
  • Fatty Friday’s with Wild 101
  • Saturday with DJ Zuz
  • Hip Hop Sundays with 208 Music

Thinking about going to Fatty’s? Here are some tips:

1. Check out the stripper pole. Yes, there’s a stipper pole surrounded by 2 couches. If you feel so inclined to show off your Magic City moves (ladies) or Magic Mike skills (men), by all means go ahead and abuse that pole!
2. Don’t miss your chance to meet the Fatty’s panda. He fittingly  pops up when the DJ drops Desiigner’s “Panda.” Crowd usually goes crazy for Mr. Panda. Make sure to snap a photo with him.


3. It’s for all ages. Let’s say you’re just coming from a Steelheads game. Head over to Fatty’s to end the night by hanging by the bar. Date night? Fatty’s is ideal because it has private booths to sit in, bar stool tables, a pool table. You can find places to talk in Fatty’s. Girls’ Night Out? Yes, also ideal. I scanned the crowd, and I can see all demographics and age groups.


Stop 2: China Blue

After warming up a little bit at Fatty’s, I made the walk over to China Blue. China Blue is a 2-story dance floor on the corner of Main Street and 6th Street.  Once you get carded and walk thru the curtains (yes, there are curtains), you’re greeted with vibrant bar. Once you take a right, you can either checkout the main dance floor, or you can head upstairs for more intimate setting.


Thinking about going to China Blue? Here are some tips:

  1. Embracing your dancing shoes. The DJ normally plays a mix of hip hop and top 40 hits. Sometimes, I wish the DJ would let certain hip hop/rap songs play out. He usually mixes a hip hop song with some techno version. Maybe it’s the Floridian in me, but if you’re feeling a good hip hop song, changing gears isn’t always what the crowd wants.
  2. Make it a Girl’s Night/Guy’s Night Out. China Blue is ideal for a large group for a variety of reasons: 1) you can all chip in for VIP section; 2) you can dominate the dance floor; and 3) you have your fair share of wing(men/women).
  3. Checkout the outside deck. Although it’s reserved for smokers, and if you can handle the smoke, I encourage you to checkout outside. Nice view of downtown Boise, a few comfy seats, and a warm fire pit.

Bonus is the Ladies bathroom. It’s its own mini lounge! It has modern sinks, a coat check, seats, large mirrors — ideal for outfit check, selfies, and SnapChats.

Oh, did I mention they have “Make It Rain” Friday? Yes, dolla dolla bills are dropped from the 2nd floor to the ground. Confetti is simultaneously released into the crowd as the money drops. When does China Blue make it rain? Friday nights.


Stop 3:  Humpin’ Hannahs

Not many words can describe Humpin’ Hannah’s. But I’ll try. I first visited a couple of months ago for a Meetup group event. It reminded me of a dive bar I used to visit with my classmates in law school in Maine. From the decor to the music, it’s your ideal place to get to dance, play pool, and enjoy you night out in the BOI.


Cover: None

Themed Nights & Drink Specials

  • Wednesday: Blue Turf Bash
    • $2.50 wells & bottled buds
    • $5 Doc Holiday and Huckleberry Lemonades
  • Throwback Thursday
    • $2 Coors and Wells
  • Friday & Saturday Night: all out dance party

Thinking about going to Humpin’ Hannah’s? Here are some tips:

  1. Be close to Rocci Johnson when she & her band performs. Rocci is a staple in the Boise community. Her band covers all type of songs, from rock & roll to pop hits. She’s also known for giving away adult toys! Let her know it’s your birthday, bachelorette party, or any special occasion, and she’ll spoil you!
  2. Go early. To my surprise (which now is no longer a surprise given Humpin Hannah’s has been ranked  #1 as Treasure Valley’s Best Dance Club), there’s a line to get in. That said, pay attention to who is in front & whether people skip the line.
  3. You will find a dancing partner. Don’t worry if it’s you and a few friends. You will eventually be asked to dance & have a dancing partner. The dance floor is usually packed to capacity, with a large screen for music videos as the song plays. It’s a recipe for the ultimate dancing experience. Whether you’re dancing with a group of girls, a group of guys, or someone on an intimate level — you will be dancing with someone by the end of the night!

If you’re not really into the whole dancing-all-night thing, Hannah’s has plenty of places to sit (upstairs and downstairs). You can enjoy all the people watching too. You can also enjoy a game of pool with your friends.


 

So that was my #boisebucketlist night out! I have plenty more clubs and bars to try out and feature. Once I do, I’ll have my top 5 nightclubs which should be on your #boisebucketlist.

Before I go, here are a couple of funny stories from my night out:

  1. Free Drinks! While I was waiting in line at Humpin’ Hannah’s, a young lady and her boyfriend came up to me and said I will buy you a drink if I can cut in front of you? Because I was with my brother, we negotiated 2 drinks to be bought. Apparently, it was 1) her birthday and 2) she couldn’t handle the Boise cold given that she was from Seattle. So, after I let her cut in front of me, we headed to the $1.00 shots mini table, cheer to her birthday, and kicked off our time in Humpin’ Hannah’s

  1. Mini Stalker. OK, this is pretty funny but also not. I was recognized at Humpin Hannah’s by someone from when I went out with my sister during Thanksgiving holiday. This person is drastically shorter than me (5 inches shorter). His aggressive nature was tolerable when I was at Humpin’ Hannah’s. He must have followed me to China Blue because not even 5 minutes in China Blue, I see mini stalker. He comes up to me without hesitation and tries to grab me. My patience wore thin at this point, and I forcely told him to stop. Thankfully, it didn’t need to be escalated.

Side note: Although I consider this something funny, please don’t take an aggressor lightly. I commend all the security guards at the bars/nightclubs I’ve visited here in Boise. These men are there to help diffuse and prevent a situation in the nightclub. In my case, if this mini stalker kept harassing me, I would have no problem going to one of the security guards and advise them of this guy’s behavior.

 


Quick Recap:

  • No covers for Fatty’s, China Blue, and Humpin’ Hannah’s
  • Drink specials at each location
  • All 3 places seem to have all ages atmosphere
  • Bars close at 2aM

Till next time Boise!

 

Waffle Me Up!

Waffles are just pancakes with abs.

Or, at least that’s what some people say. For me, waffles are delicious warm creatures which warm up my belly while I eat.


Fortunately for you, Boise has its own waffle hot spot: Waffle Me Up. It’s a family owned storefront who has been serving the Treasure Valley since 2012. Originally, Waffle Me Up started selling waffles at the Nampa Farmer’s Market. Now it sells waffles at the Boise Farmer’s Market and the storefront in Downtown Boise.

I blessed my first visit to Waffle Me Up by having their Waffle Me Strawberry: Pictures don’t do justice because it’s a flavor party in your mouth:

  • Nutella
  • Fresh Strawberries
  • Homemade Strawberry Sauce
  • Topped with Whipped Cream

 

Being the coffee addict that I am, I also ordered their  regular-sized drip coffee.

Side note: I never heard of the term “drip coffee.” It wasn’t until I ordered my first cup of coffee here in Boise where the cashier kindly corrected by saying “oh, you mean drip coffee?”

 

Put Waffle Me Up on your #boisebucketlist today!

 

 

MUSEUM MONDAY: IDAHO BLACK HISTORY MUSEUM

Welcome to my very first blog post!

Today is #MuseumMonday, where I will review one of Boise’s many museums. It’s a win-win because 1) it encourages me to visit the different museums in the Treasure Valley, and 2) I get to share my experience with you! So sit back, relax, and enjoy the read.

Front Entrance of the Idaho Black History Museum

Last Saturday, I went to the Idaho Black History Museum. The museum is housed in a white small church near Julia Andrews Park.

 

After going to Claus-n-Paws at Zoo Boise (stay tuned for a separate blog post on my afternoon of #boiseadventures), I decided to walk over to the Museum and see if it was open. Fortunately for me, it was opened, from 10AM to 5pm to be exact. That gave me 2 hours to explore the Museum.

Given its size (think of a small local Baptist church from the 1950s: small staircase, wood doors, glass-stained windows), exploring the Museum wasn’t going to take me 2 hours.

Once I walked in, I was immediately mesmerized and in completely awe. Maybe it’s because I LOVE museums and learning about cultural influences.

After scanning and talking in the view, I eventually was greeted with the amazing From Slave to Presidency piece by Pablo Rodriguez, Jr. This piece was donated to the Museum in December 2009, installation of the final piece in January 2010. It’s a beautiful piece, which you can see a glimpse in the photo above.


 

Here are some other cool photos from my visit

 

Powerful quote

 

 

1st black graduate of the University of Idaho College of Law

 

 

Example of the informational panels

 

 

Thank you for your service!

 


 

My only (small) critique is I wish some video showing the history of Black Idahoans or something similar, or alternatively, music playing in the background. Aside from that, I thoroughly enjoyed my visit!


 

Here are some of my suggestions to maximize your visit:

  • Take the time to read each informational panel
  • Look at the From Slave to President Piece above the front door
  • Make a donation
  • Stop by the Abraham Lincoln statue next door
Say hi to Abraham Lincoln

Have you visited the Idaho Black History Museum? If so, I’d love to hear about your visit. Comment below! If you’d like to learn more about the Museum, including volunteer opportunities, please visit: http://www.ibhm.org/


Join me next week for my next #MuseumMonday feature!