Category: Dating in the BOI

Love in the BOI: Jess and Greg

by boisebucketlist, posted in Dating in the BOI, single life

This story has a unique twist. It’s told from the matchmaker’s perspective – the groom’s sister. This is the Love in the BOI story of Jess and Greg, told by Haley.

 

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How Did They Meet?

In 2007, my brother Greg graduated high school and moved to SLC to go
to college at Westminster. In 2008, Jess moved to Boise from Idaho Falls for her senior year and we quickly became friends. She went off to college, and when she was at Lewis and Clark College in Lewiston and I was at Washington State University in Pullman, we made many trips to visit and stay in touch. Jess and I both graduated in May of 2014 and returned to Boise. After a couple months of being busy with out new adult lives, we met for coffee at the Flying M. She was talking about how into weight lifting she was and tried her hardest to get me to be her workout buddy. I was working on getting my pre-college body back, but was no where near body building status. I did offer an alternative workout partner to myself, which happened to be my brother. He recently moved back to Boise from Salt Lake and had always been a gym rat. I gave her My brother’s number and encouraged the idea. Soon after, they set a time to go workout.

 

Describe Their First Date

Jess and Greg had such a great time working out, that their gym date turned into a coffee date,which then turned into a lunch date, all in one day! After Greg decided to officially ask Jess out on a date to Silver City, they were inseparable ever since. A year and a half later Greg proposed on what should’ve been a hot air balloon ride, but the weather didn’t agree, so he went with plan b and took an early morning walk down the greenbelt on the Fourth of July and surprised her on his knee near the river. Fast forward to October 14,2017, they had a beautiful wedding at the Bishops House in Boise. The newlyweds went on a gorgeous honeymoon to St. Lucia and bought a house last month.

What Do They Like To Do In Boise?

Greg and Jess enjoy anything outdoors in Idaho from hiking the foothills with
their 7 year old yellow lab Jack, to spending a much needed weekend in
a remote yurt and hot springs.  Jess is a night nurse, so their time
together is sporadic, but they make many memories together.

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How Do You Feel About Playing Matchmaker?

Jess and Greg are opposites, but the yin to the others yang. Although I wasn’t planning
to set them up, it was the most serendipitous meeting. It is still funny to think that they just barely missed meeting each other in while I was in high school, but it worked out for the best. I’m excited to see what their life together brings.

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What’s fun about this story is that I get to work with Haley on a professional level. I’m also going to work with her on some special projects for Boise Bucket List. Stay tuned!

 

 

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Love in the BOI: Christen & Brandon

by boisebucketlist, posted in Dating in the BOI, Seattle, single life

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Meet Christen and Brandon Fisher. Their love story is vampire meets zombie. Intrigued? Keep reading! This is their Love in the BOI story.

 

How Did You Two Meet?

Brandon and I met working as actors at a haunted house in Arizona. Just a classic love story between zombie and vampire! Our friends had asked us if we wanted to make good money while working a interesting job. I had seen him from across the room and was immediately struck (later he told me the same). I was so shy though I barely spoke to him whole month we worked there because I had the biggest crush!

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Describe Your First Date

On the last day [of the haunted house] I thought this was now or never, so I asked for his number so we could go to the company Halloween party together. There would be our first kiss too by the way (and I still had my pointy teeth in haha!). We started dating after that and found out we had just missed each other in the same schools and he only live a couple miles from my house which in Phoenix is a big deal.

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We have been through everything together including long distance so I can finish school. The first time it was up north in Arizona, the second was when I was accepted to go to a school in Idaho. When we learned that, we had been together for 4 years and he decided that was when he was going to propose.

Now, Brandon had never gotten me flowers because at first he thought they were a waste of money since they just die anyway (men.), but then he realized that would be a good way to propose eventually. So he asked my mom to take me out shopping. When we came back to our apartment he had filled it with bouquets of flowers for every event that he had missed giving them (birthdays, valentines day, etc.). In the middle was a box that said open me. I was in shock. Inside it said turn around. When I did, he was dressed up in a suit and down on one knee. He was so nervous he blurted out “would you marry me?”, and after I (tearily) said yes he admitted he had a speech ready but he was so nervous he forgot! So then he said it and it blew me away. We planned to get married in two years after school in Idaho. And we ended up getting married this past June in McCall!
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What is Your Advice for Those Looking for Love?

As far as the advise for people looking for love… you can find love in unexpected places. We put ourselves out there signing up for a odd job and ended up finding soulmates. Be open to opportunities but if it doesn’t happen just enjoy the time while you are out there. You will know when you are gradually going through the dating steps and it just feels natural and easy. Everyone is different and there will be ups and downs, but I know Brandon and I never felt any doubt that we were going to end up together forever.
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What Is Your Favorite Thing To Do In Boise?

Now that we live in Boise it is truly hard to pick one thing that we love to do here. We love to go hiking in the foothills, paddle boarding at the different lakes, running with our dog on the greenbelt, checking out the nightlife downtown. trying out different restaurants, or going to the myriad of events always going on in Boise. We love it! I think we found our paradise.

Love in the BOI: Mallory & Tommy

by boisebucketlist, posted in Dating in the BOI, single life

In 2014, Mallory went to the Mayhem Festival. Although since she was young she knew she would meet her future husband at a concert, Mallory probably didn’t know it would be this one! Meet Mallory and Tommy.

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 How did you all meet?

We met at Mayhem Festival in 2014! It was too perfect because growing up, I always knew I would meet my future husband at a concert!

 

Describe your first date

Our first date was at Barbacoa and we shared a rack of ribs and their roasted marshmallow dessert

 

What advice do you have for those looking for love in Boise?

For those looking for love in Boise, I advise that you look in places where you least expect it. Branch out and get out of your comfort zone! Maybe attend a class that you haven’t been to before.

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Where is your favorite place to go (or thing to do) together as a couple?

Our favorite thing to do as a couple is eat out! We LOVE food and Boise has so many amazing local restaurants and brew pubs to offer. We try to eat at a new place every week!​

 

Thank you, Mallory for sharing your LOVE in the BOI story!

 

Love in the BOI: Erika & Ray

by boisebucketlist, posted in Dating in the BOI, single life

 

Meet Erika & Ray.  Ray traveled to Spain to study Spanish, while Erika was in Spain volunteering to show Americans around. Their love for one another & Erika’s love for Boise lead to be a Love in the BOI story. 

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How did you all meet?

Back in 2010 Ray was studying  Spanish so he decided to study abroad in Spain. I was studying English so I decided to become a volunteer and help American students to integrate in my    city and show them around.  Ray was one of those American students. I had never met such a joyful person and we became best friends. Soon enough we fell in love and I decided to come to USA to keep studying English.
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We had a long distance relationship for 18 months until he finished college. After graduation,  we traveled the world together and lived in Colombia, Spain and Russia.  In 2015 we got engaged and he said : We can live anywhere in the world you want. I answered : Let’s go to Boise!
I had fallen in love with Boise since the very first day I visited it and here we have had the happiest days of our relationship.


Describe Your First Date.


Our first date was at my favorite beach in my Island  (Mallorca ).
We jumped cliffs and listened to Johnny Cash in the Ipod. I had always loved Johnny Cash but pretty  much no one knew him in Spain. When he chose Johnny Cash in the playlisy and imitated his voice , I knew I had found the one.
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What advice do You Have for those looking for love in Boise?

 

Try and find a partner in a place where a similar interest exists that will build your relationship over time: book shops, concerts, climbing gyms, fitness classes, etc. Bars are a natural go to, but the atmosphere often times doesn’t reflect an environment of “looking for something serious”.

And for people from around the area who think they already know everyone here, don’t lose hope! Boise is attracting droves of young people as of recently and there could be someone new coming to town just for you.

 


What is your favorite place to go (or thing to do) together as a couple? 

We love skying , taking interesting classes at Jump, enjoying the great outdoors and eating amazing food ! Our favorite places  are El Cafetal Colombian restaurant,  Wild Root, Parilla, and Bier 30. Oh and we love traveling!

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Love in the BOI: Sarah & Zac

by boisebucketlist, posted in Dating in the BOI, single life

Imagine only being able to communicate with each other in a beginner’s American sign language class. This is Sarah & Zac’s Love in the BOI story.

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Zac & Sarah Warren

How did you all meet?

We were paired up during a beginner’s American sign language class in college and weren’t allowed to actually speak to each other those first few weeks – just awkwardly try to sign.

Describe your first date.

We met in Vancouver, WA, but one of the first things we did together as a couple was come to Boise to meet Zac’s mom and great-grandmother. It was a bit intimidating for me, but I ended up loving his family and we had such a good time exploring the city. We were married in the Idaho State Capitol and when we started our family we decided that Boise was the place we wanted to live. It was one of the best decisions we’ve ever made!

What advice do you have for those looking for love in Boise?

Our advice for people looking for love in Boise is that it comes when you least expect it. Pursue your dreams and passions and you are bound to run into that special someone.

What is your favorite place to go (or thing to do) together as a couple?

Our favorite thing to do as a couple is travel. We have a goal of taking our son to all 50 states and 7 continents! We also love camping at Redfish Lake.

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Zac & Sarah Warren (photo by Maggie Grace Photo)

 

Want to follow Zac and Sarah on their adventures? Make sure to give them a “follow” on their Instagram pages: Zac @zacwarren56 and Sarah @raisingsmiles. Photo credit to Maggie Grace at @maggiegracephoto.

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Love in the BOI: Nikki & Graham

by boisebucketlist, posted in Dating in the BOI, single life
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The Night Nikki & Graham Met

 

Imagine backpacking through Europe & eventually meeting your future husband. Meet Nikki and Graham.

Nikki’s Mini Story:

I was 24 had a great job, lived down town. Done with dating. And thought right! If I’m going to see the world I need to do it now before I have roots. I sold my stuff, and my flat. Bought a ticket to London and traveled by train for 7 weeks, sleeping on couch’s hostels, hotels, and streets. I saw the U.K., France, Germany, Switzerland, Italy, and made my way back to London and up to Scotland
For my 25th birthday. the girl I was crashing with had a going away party me at the end of my stay and invited a few friends. She said we needed to pick up a friend from the train station, there he was 6’2 Scotsman. Awesome fashion smaller amazing ! I played it cool. We all hung out all night. And he kissed me before I had to go, We swapped details, and said to keep in touch. I touch a 5 hour train back to London. And no sooner I got there, he said come back. I had one of those movie moments ( if I don’t go I’ll regret it for the rest of my life) and so I went. He took me all over, had a few adventures. And I had to fly back to Boise.
Two days after I got home he sent me a message “ I shouldn’t have let you leave” and he was on the next flight, he had NEVER been to America. I took him all over Boise, Salt Lake, Reno, Las Vegas. And that was it….
6 weeks from the day we met, we were married ️ that was nearly 8 years ago. We lived in Scotland for a while. But Boise is home. We have 2 kids both with Scottish names Ewan Graham, and Harper Caroline. Which we take traveling. Hawaii, Iceland, Disneyland and Scotland

How Did You Meet?

I was backing thru Europe, met him in Scotland.
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Nikki & Graham the 1st Night They Met

Describe Your First Date

I had to leave Scotland and head back to London. And we had said our ( nice to meet you, keep in touch) . Once back in London, he said he wanted to see me and told me to come back. And he would take me on a tour of his country (Scotland) our first date was in a pub in Edinburgh, the start of a 3 day tour.

What Advice Do You Have for Those Looking for Love in Boise?

Stop looking lol!. As soon as I said “screw men” , and focused on what I wanted to do( travel) he found me.
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Nikki & Graham on Their Wedding Day

Where is Your Favorite Place to Go (or thing to do) Together as a Couple?

We love to eat!! So we live trying every hole in the wall restaurant in town. And traveling .. of course

 

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First Time at Table Rock
Nikki shared more after this post about the details surrounding her marriage. It’s pretty epic! Let’s just say it involves a bet in Sin City. Checkout Nikki’s Instagram feed, where she showcases her veggie-inspired lifestyle.

Love in the BOI: Vanessa & Brody

by boisebucketlist, posted in Dating in the BOI, How-To Guides

 

Meet Brody and Vanessa Wright. This is their Boise love story told by Vanessa.

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Vanessa & Brody Wright

How They Met:

I was living in Pocatello at the time. My friend wanted to leave town to celebrate her birthday so we decided to head to Boise for the weekend! Brody and I met downtown boise off 6th and main, in the middle of the street! We stopped on that corner to exchange numbers, and later met up the next day! That following night, He showed me around Boise and I fell in love with the atmosphere even more.

We have been inseparable ever since. After 4 months into our relationship and long distance, I finally took the step to move to Boise to pursue our going relationship. A year later, we got engaged, and a year after that, we got married . We now have a beautiful daughter, Moana who is 6 months. We will be together for 4 years this coming March, 2 year wedding anniversary in June ❤️🤗

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Meet the Wrights 

Describe Your First Date:

He offered to come visit me in Pocatello for our first actual date. We had breakfast at a place called “Butterburrs” and I was pretty shy! I refused to look him straight in the eye during our date because he was so intimidating! He thought I wasn’t interested in him! We attempted a second date the following weekend. Second date kicked off much better! And he continued to come down to see me every weekend for 4 months until I moved. Been together ever since ❤️

What Advice Do You Have For Those Looking for Love in Boise?

My advice for those looking for love in Boise is HAVE FUN, live a little and don’t have such high standards!!!! I honestly did not plan on being in a relationship so soon when I met my husband. But that’s what life does to you! People show up at the right place and the right time!

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Beautiful smiles from a lovely couple

Before, I used to be so picky, but being picky isn’t always a good thing! Once I realized what was actually realistic in a man/relationship, the more fun it became to meeting people!! I never thought I’d meet my husband in the middle of the street! I took that as a sign and opportunity to see what would happen next!

So have fun, take chances, and live life with a positive outlook!! Always!

What we enjoy doing as a couple:

We LOVE sushi! You’ll catch us at your local IOU Sushi, or outdoors paddleboarding, or hiking with our German shepherd named Kuma and our daughter Moana around the valley! We also enjoy The Village at Meridian, and Bowling at Big Al’s with family and friends!

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Vanessa & Brody’s  outside adventures 

 

Vanessa also has a YouTube channel where she does amazing makeup tutorials. Her Instagram is an amazing feed of her family, friends, and her beauty tutorials. I tease her sometimes on Instagram to help teach me some amazing makeup tricks! Make sure to follow her at @vanessamwright.

Love in the BOI: Sladja & Devin

by boisebucketlist, posted in Dating in the BOI, Uncategorized

 

 

To celebrate the month of love, I asked local couples to share their stories of how they fell in love in the City of Trees.

Meet Sladja & Devin. Here’s their BOI Love Story:

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How did you and Devin meet?

We met at a friends’ wedding; my friend Catalina and his friend Gabe were getting married. He approached me on the dance floor and complimented my outfit. We talked the remainder of the evening and exchanged phone numbers; he asked first of course.

Describe Your First Date.

Our first date was very simple and casual, my style. We went out to dinner to Matador, a local Mexican joint. We realized later that both of our favorite food was Mexican. We barely ate but instead talked for 2 hours getting to know one another. After dinner, we went to his place and watched a movie. We were inseparable from that moment on.

What advice do you have for those looking for love in Boise?

Don’t be so picky, but don’t settle either. What I mean by this is lose your “type” or the idea of a “perfect” person because it will limit who you meet based on your own judgement but don’t allow your character to be questioned based upon what you think the other person will like. Believe your worth because there’s only one of you and every person deserves love. People often, myself included, confuse lonely and alone. If you feel lonely, you’re better off being alone. I also truly believe you have to love yourself first before you can love someone else and allow them to love you back.

Where is your favorite place to go (or thing to do) together as a couple?

We love to go anywhere outdoors. We love to hike and/or backpack with our pups through the wilderness; one of our favorite spots is Stanley, ID. It’s one of our favorite ways to unwind and disconnect from the hustle and bustle of work and social media stress. For us, it’s the best way to spend quality time together and go back to basics.

 

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Sladja & Devin with their fur babies 

FYI – I enjoy Sladja’s instagram page and been following her for some time. I was even behind her in line when Bleu Bird Cafe closed a few weeks back. Make sure to give Sladja  a follow!

Do you have a Love in the BOI story? Feel free to email me at theboisebucketlist@gmail.com.

Dating in the BOI: 7 Fun 1st Date Ideas

by boisebucketlist, posted in Dating in the BOI, How-To Guides, single life

 

Thanks to the ladies in my Girls Night Boise group, I have a creative list of first-date ideas when dating in Boise. Even if it’s not your first date, here are some date night ideas you can impress your lover with:

  1. Grab a Scooter, get a picnic basket, and zip around Boise.

Scooters are fun, and they add this layer of exhilaration any couple would enjoy. You can either take the picnic to a romantic spot in Boise (Julia Davis Park, Ann Morrison Park, or Camel Back’s Park), or end your scooter adventure at a romantic restaurant.

  1. Be a big kid at Wahooz

This is my personal favorite because the dates with my then-boyfriends started off carefree and casual. Think about how fun it’ll be to tap into your inner kid again. No pressure of highly romantic dates. This is a personal preference, but I’m a big fan of fun and casual dates. Why?

  • Be slightly competitive, fun & flirty while playing mini gold
  • Jump in a go-kart and race each other & see who wins
  • Have fun as you play laser tag
  • Get to know each other over a slice of pizza
  • Take some of those classic photo booth pictures

 

Plus – it’s my way of seeing if a guy is hyper competitive and if whether he can be silly & relaxed. Not take himself too seriously. It’s also an excuse for me to wear a cute top, some boyfriend cut jeans, and throw on my Converses.

  1. Get Your PAC MAN on at SpaceBar Arcade

Talk about bringing it back, in an entertaining and fun way. Who doesn’t old school arcade games?  SpaceBar Arcade is this cool spot located below Dharma Sushi and Thai on Capitol Blvd in Downtown Boise. You know you’re in the right spot when you see the line of old school arcade machines for your perusing.  Head to the bar to grab some drinks. You’ll notice an 80s movie playing one these 3 small TVs in the corner. And it’s a VHS that’s playing (my younger audience may need to google what a VHS is.) If you want to tape into your Nintendo skills, grab a seat on the couch with your date and start playing!

I’ve been to the SpaceBar Arcade to hang out, but never on a date. This is on my list.

  1. Tap into you artist at Ceramica

Calling all Demi Moores and Patrick Swayzes (Ghost movie reference). Well, maybe not so much like that scene, but you can get together and paint your own pottery piece. It allows both of you to tap into your creative side and see how each other creates. You can even give each other your masterpieces once they are ready.

  1. Hiking & Grab Healthy Smoothie Afterwards

 

With plenty of hiking trails, you have many opportunities to have your first date be an active one. You can see beautiful Boise while getting to know each other. After burning off some calories, you can grab some healthy cuisine at places like Fresh Café Boise.

  1. Capital City Market + 8th Street Brunch

Since I’ve experienced the Capital City Market for the first time last weekend, I can definitely see it being an ideal place for a first date. You can take your time exploring all the various vendor tables, buy each other fun gifts, and take your time strolling as you talk & connect. It’s low key enough to where you don’t have that high  pressure to keep chatting. Plus, you can be flirty in a less-than-obvious way. Maybe that’s me talking because I’m not the best with all of that flirty stuff. After taking your time walking around, you can then head over to one of the restaurants on 8th Street: Juniper, Eureka, Wild Root Café, Bittercreek Alehouse, and Red Feather Lounge. You can even venture off 8th Street and head over to Bacon or St. Lawrence Gridiron.

  1. Get Your Laugh on at Liquid Laughs

You can’t beat having a good laugh in at your first date. It’s an ideal way to break the ice between 2 people. Why not head over to Liquid Laughs for your first date? I haven’t been to liquid laughs, but I know it’s a place I’m adding to my date night bucket list. You can grab dinner beforehand at Solid, or Bardenay, or P.F. Chang. You can walk over to Liquid Laughs, sit next to each other, and enjoy being entertained. Afterwards, you can maybe walk around downtown and keep the conversation going.

This is my PART I of my 1ST date ideas. Big special thanks to my girls night boise special ladies for their dating ideas and input: Taylor, Ashley,  and Crystal! Stay tuned for plenty more ideas.

Dating in the BOI: Ghost of the Ex

by boisebucketlist, posted in Dating in the BOI, Nightlife, single life

Being single — whether it’s in Boise or another city — there’s moments where you feel like there’s a ghost of boyfriend (or girlfriends’) past.

What do I mean?

Lately, I’ve been reflecting on my recent dating experiences and the takeaway from each one. I feel it’s essential given I’m not having the most positive experiences.

One common denominator is that none of them have elevated to a level of genuine seriousness like I had with my ex.

This is where ghost of boyfriend’s past comes in.

I don’t share much on my blog about my personal life, but I think it’s important for this post.

My most recent relationship was the one where I underwent the most change: love, adoration, pain, hurt, sorrow, laughter.

Backstory:

I met Mr. Handsome (that was my name for him in my cellphone) in late 2012, during my last year of law school. He was my escape. After being highly engaged as a student, I was in need of my own space from my law school duties.

Insert Mr. Handsome.

  • Tall (6’4)
  • Older by 3 years (which I prefer)
  • Dreads
  • Father
  • Worked in education

Over the course of November & December, Mr. Handsome and I had a connection that i hadn’t had since my last boyfriend.

We:

  • Talked on the phone every night during the week (he had his daughter on the weekend due to a temporary custody visit schedule)
  • Met up at a location between our respective places we lived ( i lived in Portland, ME and he lived in Auburn, ME)
  • Usually met either at the LL Bean in Freeport or a McDonald’s in Gray, ME
  • Talked for hours ( I remember he and I being tired the next day because we were out too late)

After about 6 dates or so, he asked me while we were packing up from a night of bowling:

Mr. Handsome: Can we be daters?

Me: Daters?

Mr. Handsome: Yes (shyly).

We’ve been on 6 dates (Mr. Handsome loves numbers and he would remember dates & periods of time).

I thought it was cute, because he was basically asking if we could be exclusive.

That was the beginning. During the course of our relationship, I thought I found my person. He was introverted but ideal for my outgoing personality, introduced me to his interests, we had our own language and ways of talking to each other, and our own routine.

But lots happened in between:

  • Met his little girl (took 6 months to meet her, which I’m proud about)
  • Met his family
  • Moved in together
  • He won primary custody of his daughter
  • Broke up
  • Moved out
  • Got back together
  • Broke up
  • Got engaged
  • Broke up
  • Moved away

Yes, did you catch that? We were engaged.

See, the thing is that our relationship was complex, filled with raw emotions, real love, and lots of back and forth. I thought engagement would be the best next step.

No, unfortunately not.

I’ll just say this: sometimes you can’t fall in love with the potential or hope of what the person will become.  I don’t question whether or not he cared for me, but he couldn’t reciprocate the love I needed in return.

Thus, broken engagement left me distraught and having to leave the life I built in Maine.

Now, I’m here in Boise, living a life where I’m Working in a field I love, traveling , and enjoying exploring

So why am I saying all of this?

I know a few of you who read my blogs (thank you!), whether married or single, go through the motions of relationships. If you’re single like me, there will be moments where you think of the times with those from your past.

Last year before moving to Boise, I wouldn’t entertain those thoughts. I buried them so deep inside, I’d forget about my time with my ex, the life we could of had, and the life I left in Maine.

With these recent dating experiences, I’m  realizing I’m attempting to absolve myself with any thoughts of my previous life. these dates have left me to feel empty.

The issue with this method is that nothing is absolved. It’s a temporary fix. None of them give me that feeling of Yes, I’d like to learn more about him. Maybe it’s a Virgo thing or maybe it’s my personality (or a little bit of both), I don’t quickly fall for someone. Honestly, it takes me quite some time to establish a real connection with another person. I do not share the “real” me until I feel they are worthy.

I’m using this post to celebrate what I’ve got from my past relationship with Mr. Handsome, and thinking of the days we’d meet again. Maybe to talk, maybe for closure. Not sure.

Artifacts from the Ex:

  • Enjoy watching English Premier league and US Soccer
  • Hard to listen to Bob Marley Songs
  • My jeep (his dad helped me select it when car shopping)
  • Blue Memphis sweatshirt
  • My gray calf boots (his mom gave them to me)
  • Teenage Mutant Ninja Tirtles (his daughter loved watching the cartoon)
  • Drink Blue Moon (his fav)
  • Hard to look at lead singer of Rage Against the Machine (someone said he looks like him when he had dreads)
  • Appreciation for running (his fav way to stay in shape)
  • Learning that I cannot wait for the day to become a mother

When dating someone who has children from a previous relationship, it can be challenging if you break up. The hardest part of the breakup was saying goodbye to his little girl. I lived with her for over a year. My bond with her was deep, rich, and impacted me in ways I can never truly express in words. From her hugs to her personalized handmade letters, she gave me a snippet into what life may be like as a (then) step mom. Saying goodbye was heart wrenching and a moment of my life I would not want to re-live.

Moving forward, I plan to focus on my priorities. And I’ll admit (finally), dating isn’t one of them. I’m no longer interested in spending time on the whole let-me-get-to-know-you show. All I end up doing anyway is thinking about my ex; no one even remotely comes close to my connection with him.

  • Wasting time respond to a text
  • No longer responding to subtle attempts to seek attention
  • Deactivate my dating profiles
  • Cutting someone out the moment they play stupid & ridiculous games

I’m going to Date Myself.

Yes, that’s what I said.

Do things I’ve put in the back burner, such as:

  • Get back into running
  • Get back into reading
  • Get back to aimlessly roaming a city with no expectations
  • Get back to event planning
  • Get back to ME

Ghost of boyfriend’s past is a reality. I acknowledge it, and I’ve grown from it. Cheers to growth!

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